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Bhramari, the ancient humming bee breath, is one of the most immediate and underestimated tools available for a nervous system in overdrive and once you understand why it works, you may never reach for anything else first.

You get things done. You show up. You are dependable, often impressive. You have a good sense of humour about the pressure you're under. You are, in most of the ways that are visible, fine.

The instruction to calm down is one of the least useful things you can offer an anxious person. Including yourself. I say this not to be contrary, but because understanding why it doesn't work gets you much closer to what does. And what it comes down to is this: anxiety is not a thought. It's a bodily state. And you cannot think your way out of a body state.

Understanding where anxiety lives in your body, and learning to work with it there, is a different and often more effective approach than trying to address it at the level of thought. Because by the time anxiety shows up as thought, it's already been present in the body for a while. The thought is often the last thing to arrive.

Friendships are supposed to uplift, support, and encourage us to grow. But sometimes, what we believe to be friendship is something else entirely: manipulation disguised as loyalty, control masked as care. True friends want to see you thrive, even if that means watching you walk away into something better. But not everyone in our lives fits that definition.

Do you need to say no? Or at least consider it as an option more often. I believe what the world has shown us recently, more than anything else is that underneath all the noise and so-called ‘being busy’ we might only need a few key basics. Looking around some of these basics can be seen in the form of comfortable clothing and natural hair colour but other basics like the quality of relationship are a little more difficult to identify, although are ever more important.