Finding trust in yourself so that you can trust the journey you are on. Choosing to believe that not knowing what is happening at any given time is ok, it’s part of the process. It's all part of what will one day make up your story. The right here, right now can feel heavy, uncomfortable or painful but it is temporary. It will pass. You cannot feel the depths of every experience if it is only the fear you let in. What if you were to explore beyond the fear? Beyond the pain, there will be a message, a lesson or something stuck that you have yet to explore. Without delving into what it means, you are missing the lessons your life tries to show you. The parts of you that will make you all you know inside you already are. The parts of you that you long to share and be at ease with, the raw the vulnerable, the real you. Moving through the pain, into understanding is how you find freedom in letting go.
This You or Self deep inside is someone that has been hiding behind all the lessons that you learnt as a child, all the ways that you were taught how to be, how to show up in an acceptable way, the fitting in, shrinking to fit into situations or relationships. As you grow, one of the pains in this growing is the unlearning of all these lessons, the ones that served you when you were a child, these old lessons are no longer able to hold you in the same way they did. You have bloomed beyond childhood, beyond living by someone else’s rules and views, you have flourished into your more comprehensive self, but still, you are held back by these outdated forces. You might not be able to name them or understand the depths of their origin, all you know is that in your heart, they no longer fit.
In the space between the old lessons and the emotional disturbances that have got stuck over the years is a connection, you can not fully let go without letting go of these old dusty ways of being. You cling to them as they’re all you have ever known. As an individual stepping into what it means to be you, you have to acknowledge that these lessons, stories or experiences will have a hold over you, they do over all of us. You choose to peel back every layer until these ties are untangled and put to rest. Imagine your weeds are tangled in amongst your roots. Memory is tricky, so sometimes it's hard to see the difference between healthy roots and a weed pretending to be good. We need to sort them and gently separate them for freedom.
As you delve into the unfurling of your layers, you will notice that your body holds tension in parts, an ache, an irritation, maybe a tension or a stickiness, something that captures your attention. Next time you feel it, stay with it for a moment be curious about it. Is it the same place as last time? Does it have a colour? A temperature? Where does your body hold it? Is it in your hips, your belly, your heart? Just notice it, and be free from judgment or the idea you need to understand, analyse, and see. Breathe into this part of your body, as if expanding it, giving it the space it has always required. Noticing alone won’t heal your tightness, but it allows you to have a more curious, open mind about these parts of the body that are trying to tell you something. Instead of fighting yourself and hating your body for limiting you, you listen to it.
These body parts that hold on and cling are the same as the lessons you have outgrown. To be free of the baggage you carry, you must release both body and mind. The mind and body are one; together, they are the home that you live in. Healing is opening up all the parts of yourself so that love and light can shine in.
This one body that you live in is your home, it’s the one place that you can trust will always do its best for you, but it can only do so much if you have not been listening to it. I say this with love and experience. There will come a moment when she (your body) will no longer tolerate being ignored, sick and tired of being hated, blamed or silenced. She will scream at you. You will have no choice but to give her your undivided attention. And then slowly and gradually you will start to connect, to understand her. It’s the one forever union you will ever be guaranteed. Inside your body is one place where you should feel safe, nourished, and well.
If you are at the beginning of your journey inward, patience needs to come with you. Your body needs to trust you, too. Will you look after her so she can look after you?
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Learn To Trust Yourself
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