Shame Lives in the Body: How to Work With It Somatically
Shame doesn't announce itself the way anger does; it quietly settles into your body long before it becomes a thought, and that's exactly why talking about it is rarely enough. If you've ever felt yourself go small without knowing why, this piece will help you understand what's actually happening beneath the surface and how to begin working with it in a way that truly reaches the root.
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The Difference Between Guilt and Shame
Guilt and shame may feel alike in the moment, but the difference between them quietly shapes whether we grow from our hardest experiences or stay stuck inside them. Understanding what sets these two emotions apart might be the most quietly transformative thing you read today.
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The Difference between Self-love and Self-compassion
Most of us have used the words self-love and self-compassion as though they mean the same thing, but understanding the real difference between them might be the key to why one has always felt just out of reach. If you've ever wondered why being kind to yourself still doesn't make you feel truly worthy, this one is worth reading slowly.
Self-Compassion Is Not Self-Pity: What It Actually Is and Why It's Harder
Most of us have quietly confused self-compassion with weakness, or worse, with giving up. But what if the truest act of strength is finally learning to stop making yourself earn the right to be okay?
Turning 40: a love letter to the life I've lived and the one yet to come
There is something quite beautiful about taking stock of your life and finding that, even amongst the chaos, there is so much to be thankful for. Not because everything has been perfect. Far from it. But because all of it has become part of the story.Today I turn 40. And I'm arriving at this milestone not with certainty, but with 40 years of experience, a growing sense of what matters, and the willingness to take a few more risks than I used to allow myself.This one is a love letter. To the life I've lived, the lessons I'm still learning, and the woman I'm still becoming.
What's happened since I started this blog, and why I'm still here
Five years ago, I started this blog with curiosity and a half-finished manuscript. What followed changed everything, and what I discovered on the other side might just change something in you too
Where to Begin When Starting Over Feels Overwhelming: A Gentle Guide
Someone asked me recently: how do you know when you're ready to start over? And my honest answer was: you usually don't. You start before you're ready, because the alternative, staying still in something that no longer fits, has finally become more uncomfortable than the fear of moving.
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The Breathing Book By Donna Farhi: Paying Attention To The Simplest Thing Changes Everything
What if the most transformative practice you could ever discover was something you were already doing, just not fully? Donna Farhi's The Breathing Book invites you to slow down, return to yourself, and rediscover the quiet miracle that has been with you all along.
Tantra Illuminated: What Christopher Wallis Taught Me About Living As The Practice
A chance encounter with the author of a dense, luminous text on tantric philosophy shifted something fundamental, not into overwhelm, but into the quiet relief of realizing that vastness is an open door, not a locked one. If you've ever sensed there was more beneath the surface of what you've been taught about tantra, this is the book, and this is the conversation that might just change everything.
The Body Keeps the Score: What Bessel Van Der Kolk Taught Me About My Nervous System
I came to this book sideways, the way you come to most things that end up mattering. Not because I thought I had trauma in the clinical sense of the word. Because someone I trusted said: read this, it will explain some things. They were right. It explained a great many things.
Burnout by Emily Nagoski: The Book That Changed How I Understand Stress Cycles
Burnout, written by Emily Nagoski and her sister Amelia, published in 2019, is the book that gave me the clearest framework I've found for understanding why rest alone doesn't resolve exhaustion. Why a holiday can end and the weight return within days. Why doing less isn't always the same as recovering.
Turning 40: a love letter to the life I've lived and the one yet to come
There is something quite beautiful about taking stock of your life and finding that, even amongst the chaos, there is so much to be thankful for. Not because everything has been perfect. Far from it. But because all of it has become part of the story.Today I turn 40. And I'm arriving at this milestone not with certainty, but with 40 years of experience, a growing sense of what matters, and the willingness to take a few more risks than I used to allow myself.This one is a love letter. To the life I've lived, the lessons I'm still learning, and the woman I'm still becoming.
How Yoga Found Me (and why I think it might be looking for you too)
Ten years ago, yoga found its way into my life not through intention, but through desperation and what followed was a journey I never could have predicted. If you've ever tried yoga once and quietly given up, this one is for you.
Without Apology: The Freedom In Walking Away
I let my life quietly slip out the back door. I said, " See you later," and never returned. It isn't something you plan, and it isn't something I'll ever be able to explain away. I just needed to leave.
21 Years, Love Isn't What It Looks Like From The Outside.
After 21 years, love still has a way of defying every expectation we had of it and this deeply personal reflection captures exactly why the real thing is nothing as we imagined, and everything we never knew we needed.
I Write The Words I Wish I'd Found
There is a gentle beauty in the way that we write words, an honesty we can let out without the same hesitation as the spoken word. It's as if the words on a page, on a phone, become something separate once they're shared. They stop being about the writer the moment they reach the reader. There is something magical in that, the way your entire perception of the world can shift in a moment because of someone else's words.
I Took the Hard Road, They Said It Had the Best Views
Here is a question I have been sitting with: If someone offered you a shortcut - not a cheat, not a bypass, but a genuine, faster way through - would you take it? Or would you need to feel your way there first? Would you need to walk the whole long road, with its wrong turns and its weather, before you trusted where you'd arrived? I have been asking myself this honestly. And the honest answer is: I think I needed the long road. Not because suffering is noble or because hardship is a prerequisite for growth. But because of something more specific to how I am wired. I needed the felt sense.
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